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I like the sign in the photo to the left, which encourages, “To become whole first let yourself be broken,” especially, because it is located above another: “Danger: High Voltage: Keep Out.” 


How often do we feel the wise, but often quiet voice within us urge, “Be honest. Be authentic. Don’t be afraid. We can do this. Acknowledging what’s broken is the only way we can work on it”?


Not long after, however, another inner voice may warn: “That’s too risky. Don’t do it!” with an urgency not unlike Pleakley’s when speaking to the Grand Councilwoman in Disney’s Lilo & Stitch (2002), “Well, that would be a BAD IDEA! These are extremely simple creatures, miss. Landing there would create mass mayhem and planet-wide panic!” (Or maybe, I’m the only one whose inner characters sometimes sound like animated feature characters.)


In case you were wondering, it’s not uncommon for people to have an entire cast of characters within and, most likely, in and of itself, does not indicate a problem. See Richard C. Schwartz’s Internal Family Systems Therapy, 1995.


It’s natural at that point to turn away from the pesky thought that led to all those negative feelings. Still, the thought might return, “If I’m going to make any progress, I’ll have to look at this and think seriously about how I’m going to address it.”


Enter the next thought, “But if I do this, how am I going to make sure I’m moving in the right direction,” or, “I can’t do this alone!”


If this is you, there’s good news. You don’t have do do this alone. That’s why I’m here.